It doesn't bother me at all when others say it. I called myself one when I was one, and now that I'm not I don't call myself that anymore. It's one of those things where you are almost certainly running the risk of hurting someone's feelings or making someone feel like less of a lesbian/queer woman by using it, so, knowing that, why bother continuing to use it? It's unnecessary and out of date, and there are so many cuter ways to describe your queerness that don't risk hurting people.
It's cutesy, sure, but there's enough baggage wrapped up in it and chances for your meaning to be skewed that it doesn't make it worth using. I have heard accounts from many, many trans women who find the term "gold star" to be incredibly othering and offensive.Īnd, like, let's not even get into how many queer women aren't "gold star" because of sexual assault and/or coercive sex. It's also incredibly transmisogynist and cissexist, since it tends to mean "no penises in your sexual history" on top of "no men". I don't think I've ever had gold-star status brought up around me in a way that didn't end up being about attempting to invalidate my queerness, and, given the biphobic nature of the L word, it makes sense that the creator would come up with something like this. Yes, because it implies a lot of really gross things! It is definitely used as a way to make polysexual queer women feel shitty or inferior, even when not intended to be used as such.
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